He most likely wouldn’t end up being your ex-spouse at least a little if you didn’t hate him. But, hate is a corrosive emotion, very likely to consume away if you have children at you than him, particularly. Also you have to let go of the bad feelings from your past to pave the way for your new life if you don’t have children. Figure out how to forgive in a healthy and balanced way and not only can you show your self the larger person, you’ll feel better for this.
Apologize, To each and every relationship that is catastrophic comes to an end in breakup, there are 2 edges.
You might think he is, you probably can afford to shoulder a bit of the blame as to where things went wrong unless he truly is the monster. So long as it is safe and right for you to do so, provide an apology for the part within the break-up and acknowledge that neither of you had been perfect within the relationship. You’ll probably feel a lot better for saying ‘I’m sorry, ‘ also it may well lead him to increase one of his true own.
When he’s said he’s sorry, but even though he hasn’t, find room in your heart to forgive. Regardless of exactly exactly how horribly things could have ended, there should have been one thing at the start of your relationship that attracted you to him.